Updates on Christopher's Life! (2)

Today I had a verbal altercation at the Walmart in Athens, Tennessee, with the stepfather of Christopher's daughters!  He was trying to instigate against Christopher in front of me, "HIS WORSE MISTAKE EVER!"  

Here is the brief preamble to our loud verbal altercation inside the Walmart store, which I will note ahead of time, I yelled at him louder, for the whole store to hear it!

I spent the night from Friday night to Saturday Morning in south Georgia, because I was headed back to Tennesse from delivering boats in Fort Lauderdale, Florida.  Chris and I agreed that I would go to Athens, TN on Saturday afternoon to take him to Pilot for him to have a shower.  For those of you not familiar with truck fuel stops showers (e.g. "Loves, Pilot, Flying J, TA, Petro, etc.") any customer can pay for a shower, but it is mainly travelling truck drivers the ones that use them.  They are individual rooms showers, private, and cleaned by the Health Department standards, meaning that it is the same as taking a shower in a hotel, etcetera.  After his shower I took him back to Athens, TN, we went to eat at an all you can eat Chinese restaurant there in Athens, and afterwards went to Walmart for Chris to buy some things that he needed.  

I usually carry/push the cart at Walmart when I go shopping with Chris, because I'm generally doing some shopping for myself too, however, this particular time I told Chris to have the shopping cart, and that I would follow him to get what he needed, or walk next to him, etc.  At some point while in the store we came across a short older man in physical stature whom saw Chris and said:  "Hey Chris!"  And Chris walked towards him to give him a hug.  I kept walking to a different isle to let them chat.  Later on still at the store I asked Chris about that man, and he said that he was family.  So, knowing Chris a little by now, I asked him:  "Real family or like a good friend?"  And he said:  "Yeah he is family!"  But, he has called me family before, thus, I'm not  sure, but the important thing is that he was welcoming and nice to Chris.  Most people that we came across in the store were nice and friendly to Chris, and some just minding their own shopping.  However, when we went to go pay for our items, and were walking towards the self-checkout cashiers, that's when things started to get a little crazy!  Chris all of a sudden said while pointing at a young man in his mid-twenties in close proximity to us, whom by the way I had never seen before, nor saw himself approaching us:  "Jesi look!"  Chris said pointing at him, while the man had an evil look towards Chris, while at the same time Chris was trying to get away from him from behind me.  As soon as Chris said:  "Jesi look!"  He started to protect himself behind me, so obviously he is afraid of him, and for good reasons.  That man is evil!  So the man (the stepfather of Chris' daughters) said:  "What's going on with him?"  (Still with a bad attitude and evil look), so I replied:  "No, is there something wrong with you!"  So he replied: "Is he okay!"  But, of course he said it in an instigating tone!  So I replied:  "No, are you okay?  Do you know Chris?"  So he replied:  "Yes I do, he doesn't take care of his children!"  And then we went back and forth verbally, I told him many times that Christopher is austistic, and he kept replying that he (Chris) is not, that he is lying, while I told him several times that it is medically proven, and his disabilities are medically proven.    We were getting louder and louder towards each other as our argument or verbal altercation continued, but I was much more upset that he was, and I made sure that him and everybody in the store heard what I had to say.  He started walking towards the regular cashiers to check out, pay his items I suppose, and I kept yelling at him that I was going to put him in prison, and that Chris is autistic and I will not allow him to abuse him anymore!  I also called him "fucking piece of shit" and other vulgar, highly derogatory foul language, as I did when he was relatively close to me also.  He yelled back at me some derogatory things of his own.  When I turn around, Chris had scanned almost every item from our shopping cart, and bagged them.  He (Chris) was probably not wanting to be involved in the whole ordeal/altercation.  As the evil lunatic was walking out, there were some female employees walking towards our general area, and also a man, but since the man was asking if everything was okay, I asked him if he was security, because that man was trying to harass Christopher, and he replied that he was the store manager.  He was very nice, I was venting nicely and explaining to him how irrational and evil that man was/is, trying to argue with and harass an autistic man whom also has other mental issues/disabilities.  The general manager is from Iowa, which is my residence State, we chatted about Iowa, about the situation, etc.  The manager was very nice!  I told him that I regret not having taken out my phone to record everything, but that if or when I'm ready to create a legal case on behalf of Chris's welfare and defense, that it is in the Walmart cameras anyways.  Also throughout our verbal altercation (the lunatic evil stepfather and I), I yelled at him plenty of times that I was going to call the police and put him in prison for abusing/harassing Christopher.  

I do not know if he is part of the family of Chris that may have helped to raise his daughters, or if he is the partner of a woman much older than him mother to Chris's daughters.  (Chris told me something to the effect that he was the stepfather, but, Chris didn't want to talk about it much).  I don't know much about the mother of his daughters, nor know whom she is.  At any rate, in the short time since July 26th, 2024 since I met Chris, I have learned and discovered a great deal anout his life, his family/relatives, about the community, etcetera.  So these battles to fight discrimination, abuse, neglect, cynic injustice towards somebody with a mental disability and other disabling issues, are only getting started.  I am an extremely loving, forgiving, peaceful man, however, in the face of injustice and crooked evil people that refuse to accept that they have engaged in wrongdoing, then I am always ready to War against such evils, ideally legally through a justice system that in general is unfortunately and ironically part of such injustices, abuses, wrongdoings, and in the case of that latter, also "professional malpractice".  

Jesimiel Millar

(November 23, 2024)

Tennesse

Chris is in Athens, TN.  I took him back to Athens , TN on Monday morning because he wanted to unwine from travelling in the truck, and although he asked me before to take him to some place other than Athens, TN, I explained to him in a way that he could best understand given his Autism and cognitive deficiencies, that, Athens is the safest place for him to be while being homeless, because he knows the place, the people, and although it remains a fact that he is being neglected by the government and State agencies, "which is illegal" since he has a proven mental disability (regardless of what his "legal" background is), the town itself remains safer for him than being left in a homeless condition in a place that he is not familiar with, or that has more prevalent crime.  He (Chris) did call me on Tuesday evening to see if I could take him to take a shower in Pilot, or Loves, etc., and I took him to Pilot for him to shower, bought him food (although when I took him to Athens on Monday I gave him another $100 aside from the $300 he already had from me teaching him to save money every week from what I give him), and took him back to Athens, TN.  At this point, although I will continue to be a friend and financial support for him indefinitely, I may not take him travelling with me too often long distance, which for me means to New Jersey, California, lFlorida, Texas, anywhere in the USA, because once he gets impatient to want to stop travelling, if I do not have enough money to put him in a hotel long term he gets upset, irrational, because he does not understand finances well like someone without a cognitive disability can.  Thus, he changes from being talkative, friendly, respectful and thankful towards me, to be irrational, defensive, and offensive towards me.  Of course, I am a highly patient individual, full of empathy and compassion, and gifted with a high degree of intelligence, thus, I cannot be upset or get irrationally mad at him, because he is autistic and his cognitive communication abilities, emotions, and understanding of his life, environments, and circumstances can be even less rational than that of an older child.  It is cruel that in the United States of America not only the general ignorant public (which public is ignorant also worldwide, it is a humanity issue), but more critically and sad, the US Government itself permits State & Federal officials or employees to neglect assisting with the proper government assistance people with mental disabilities like Christopher Meade.  

He is a very nice man, always trying to be honorable, respectful, loves to dress nice and stay clean, which I assure you is not easy to do for someone homeless, unable to work to make money, yet he despite his autism and other issues does amazing.  One of the things that may upset not only people around him in general, but also family and friends, is the fact that when he gets upset, it does not matter how good you have been to him, or how much you have helped him, he can curse you, create untrue  stories about you, which people may notice are irrational thoughts on his part, but, sometimes he comes across as credible in his made up stories or assessments of others.  The text messages that I posted on this page, of comments that I texted him on to his phone this past Monday reflect that.  Angela (there was a "typo" on the messages, is a "she" not a "he", not a transgender) was briefly communicating with me and planning on how to find assistance in Athens, TN from official offices for Chris, because although she knows him, she did not even know that he is homeless.  So when I got him the hotel weeks back, it was in part because he wanted to talk to Angela in person, and for her to come to visit him in his hotel room, and he even had bevent a little gift for her at Home Goods to giver her, but Angela had texted me that it was not appropriate for her to meet him in a hotel, so they had a meal in a nearby restaurant, but, that is when Angela told Chris that "Jesi (me) is not whom he says he is", which Chris told me, and what Chris says about other sometimes may not be properly understood or assesed, however, he called me from the table where he was eating with Angela, and told me what she was saying about me, he said it in front of her, and seconds after, Angela texted me saying:  "This is not Jesi that was talking to Chris!"  I do not know why she would be so ignorant, but that is how she acted that day.  The following few days Chris was talking with friends, and his grandfather on the phone, and he told them that he went to meet with a woman (he didn't say her name), and that he was interested in her romantically, but that he left because she had venereal diseases.   So, although Angela had offended me by telling Chris that "I am not whom I say I am", I acted rationally and forgiving as I generally do, and told Chris not to say such things about Angela, that he cannot make up things about people without having proof or facts.  Unfortunately even people without mental disabilities engage in such irrational and ignorant behaviors, thus, but in the case of Chris, he may do it for being upset, or for not understanding a context or situation, perhaps also as a "psychological defense mechanism" to protect himself from rejection, sadness, etcetera.  Hence, it is evident that Chris has adaptability and coping mechanism not very dissimilar to those of the average mentally competent individual, however, in his case one cannot try to explain to him in detail what is going on with him psychologically, emotionally, or in terms of behavior.  He actually does not hate, nor stays upset with those people, not with Angela, or me, etcetera, it is just a temporary emotional shutdown that he does.  That is wht simple friendly communication and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy are the best ways to deal with his personality and help him to adapt better to his environments and his interactions with people.

Jesimiel Millar

(11/21/2024)

Florida